Episode 64
How to Deal with a Smoldering Heart
July 11th, 2021
37 mins 4 secs
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How do we deal with anger in a Godly biblical way. Pastor Paul continues with the Life Hacks series as we explore a smoldering heart.
-- Selected Verses --
Proverbs 29:22 NIV
An angry person stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered person commits many sins.
Proverbs 15:1 NIV
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 15:18 NIV
A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.
Proverbs 19:11 NIV
A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.
Ephesians 4:26, 27 NIV
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry,27 and do not give the devil a foothold.
-- Serman Notes --
1. The Smoldering Heart!
Proverbs 29:22 NIV
An angry person stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered person commits many sins.
Proverbs 15:18 NIV
A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.
Proverbs 22:24, 25 NIV
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.
Where does anger come from?
A. Anger that starts from a holy discontent
Mark 3:3-6 NIV
Jesus said to the man with the shriveled hand, “Stand up in front of everyone.”
4 Then Jesus asked them, “Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil, to save life or to kill?” But they remained silent. 5 He looked around at them in anger and, deeply distressed at their stubborn hearts, said to the man,
“Stretch out your hand.” He stretched it out, and his hand was completely restored. 6 Then the Pharisees went out and began to plot with the Herodians how they might kill Jesus.
B. Anger that starts appropriately but becomes ungodly.
C. Anger that starts from an ungodly source
Ungodly anger is the outward evidence of an inward erosion.
2. Be aware of Anger Danger!
Proverbs 14:17 NIV
A quick-tempered person does foolish things, and the one who devises evil schemes is hated.
Proverbs 25:28 NIV
Like a city whose walls are broken through is a person who lacks self-control.
Negative Responses to Anger
- A. Stuff It
- B. Stoke it
- C. Spew it
Ungodly anger
Ephesians 4:29-31 NIV
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.
A person who lives with a continual ungodly anger is demonstrating their unwillingness to submit to God.
3. Positively Dealing with your anger.
Proverbs 15:18 NIV
A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel.
Proverbs 19:19 NIV
A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty; rescue them, and you will have to do it again.
Proverbs 29:11 NIV
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.
Proverbs 16:32 NIV
Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.
Proverbs 19:11 NIV
A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.
Let God use your anger to serve His purposes, in you and in the world.
Put your anger out or put it to work.
Positively Processing Your Anger
a. Take ownership of your anger.
Job 19:4 & 2 Corinthians 5:9-10
b. Go under the surface to the source.
James 4:1-4
c. Learn to cross your heart and head.
James 1:19, 20
d. Take your thoughts captive.
Romans 12:1-2 & 1 Corinthians 10:3-6
FOUR WISDOM DEVELOPING PRACTICES
ONCE A WEEK LIFE HACKS MESSAGE
A DAILY PROVERB – Reading Schedule: June 20 ~ Proverbs 20; June 21 ~ Proverbs 21; June 22 ~ Proverbs 22; June 23 ~ Proverbs 23; June 24 ~ Proverbs 24; June 25 ~ Proverbs 25; June 26 ~ Proverbs 126
A WEEKLY PROVERB -- Memorize & Mediate on the weekly (distributed at services or online).
LIFE HACK GROUPS -- Go to gfhope.org for more information or email: pseverson@gfhope.org
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS, THOUGHTS and THINGS TO PONDER
For your personal discipleship, discussion with family, your LIFE HACK Group, or a watch party
- Quick Review
a. Ask yourself: Was there a particular point or passage of Scripture that challenged, confused, or caught your attention?
What stood out to you in the message?
As you examine your heart and your head, what causes anger in you?
Is your anger godly or ungodly?
Has your godly anger become ungodly in the way you express it?
How aware are you about the source of your anger? Why do you get angry?
Is there an anger in you that God would want put out?
Is there an anger in you that God would want put to work?
What are your next steps to deal with the anger that is in you or that arises?
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